The following quote is about resignation in the absence of a one true love. The author claims that finding the one is beyond one’s power of action, and at the same time likens never having fallen in love to an awareness of a lack of potency, i.e. intellectual superiority. He provides the solution, that is, of being ‘rewarded’ with your match for doing nothing but in the next breath says you then have the difficult task of getting to know him/her. In effect, he is saying, with time we learn exactly how we are to find true love, but strangely and sadly enough, it is not a method that we can employ.
“How can you regret never having found true love? That’s like saying you regret not being born a genius. People don’t have control over such things. It either happens or it doesn’t. It’s a gift – a present that most never get. It’s more like a miracle, really, when you think of it. I mean, first you have to find that person, and then you have to get to know them to realize just what they mean to you – that right there is ridiculously difficult. Then… then that person has to feel the same way about you. It’s like searching for a specific snowflake, and even if you manage to find it, that’s not good enough. You still have to find its matching pair. What are the odds?”
Heir of Novron (2011)